Love & Lust: 5 erotic experiences to add to your pleasure bucket list

• A long relationship can turn stale but a pleasure bucket list can help you prioritise your romantic life and build intimacy with your partner
• From trying new positions to experimenting with toys, a pleasure bucket list can help you discover new sources of pleasure
• Creating this list will encourage open and honest communication with your partner, helping you establish boundaries and consent

Physical intimacy is a crucial aspect of a successful relationship, no matter how it is downplayed, and let's face it, long-term relationships can get stale. But here's the exciting part; lovemaking offers endless possibilities between partners. 

From exploring new positions to experimenting with kink, incorporating toys, and getting adventurous with locations (think balcony, rooftops, or shower), the options are limitless. 

That is why creating a pleasure bucket list is a great idea. It's a fun way to prioritise lovemaking, build intimacy, and create lasting memories. So, why not spice up your weekend with your partner?

What is a pleasure bucket list? 

It is more than just a list of sexy ideas. It's a tool to explore your sexuality, discover new boundaries, and prioritise your desires, which allows you to track your goals and desires, and even create a list with your partner to ensure you're both comfortable and consenting. And the best part? Anyone can create a pleasure bucket list, whether you're single, partnered, or just looking to spice up your bedroom activities.

How to create a pleasure bucket list

Humans have always been driven to accept challenges and push beyond their limits. This innate desire for adventure and exploration is what makes setting goals, including creating this bucket list, an exciting and rewarding experience. When crafting your bucket list, consider the following essential elements;

1. Reflect on your desires

Think about what you want to experience, explore, or try. There are moments when your morals would identify some things as a no-go, however, when you listen to your innermost desire, you'll realise some things are worth trying. 

2. Discuss with your partner

Share your ideas and listen to your partner's desires and boundaries. You cannot be one-sided when it comes to sexual intimacy, it must be mutual to create a satisfying result. 

3. Prioritise your needs and make it specific

Identify the experiences that are most important to you and your partner. The goal can be to spice things up, or to reach orgasm, whichever one you choose must be prioritised to avoid distractions. And you can list out specific experiences, such as "try bondage" or "have intercourse outdoors."

4. Set boundaries

One thing to note is that establishing clear boundaries and guidelines for each experience is crucial. Your surroundings and cultural beliefs may influence what you feel uncomfortable trying, which is why setting boundaries is important, along with having a "safe word".

Five experiences to have on your bucket list

1. Try a new position

There are lots of sexual positions that your years of sexual activities will be shocking to discover. You can do research and try positions that you haven't done. It could be '69', scissoring, super slo-mo, or any other positions you have not tried. 

2. Recreate your favourite TV intimacy scene 

Intimacy scenes in movies can be incredibly stimulating, capturing a tone and atmosphere that can spark desire. Recreating a scene can be a fun and exciting experience. After watching some steamy scenes, try recreating one with your partner. For inspiration, consider iconic moments from Fifty Shades of Grey, 365 Days, or Bridgerton—depending on your fantasy. 

 3. Have phone intercourse

There's a saying that distance makes the heart grow fonder. Even when you're together, you can spice things up by staying in separate rooms. While seeing each other is wonderful, hearing your partner's sultry voice on the phone, whispering naughty intentions, can be incredibly arousing.

4. Give a pool/showers chance

Pools and hot tubs can offer amazing settings for a sensual experience, and as thrilling as it may be, it needs caution. But if you are willing to give it a trial, the result is a payoff. For showers, you can begin by getting intimate under the showerhead, then move to the bedroom to finish. 

5. Try toys

 The thought of having a strange object in you can be weird, but what is fun if you can't take a risk? Exploring intimacy can involve overcoming challenges and stepping out of your comfort zone. Consider incorporating toys like vibrators, butt clamps, or handcuffs into your intimate experiences with a trusted partner.

It is important to note that communication is key—prioritise open and honest communication with your partner, always respect your partner's boundaries and consent, and remember to have fun and enjoy the experience. 

By following these steps and ideas, you can create more lists on your pleasure bucket list to enhance your intimacy, pleasure, and connection with your partner.

13 common myths about sexual intimacy every couple should ditch

Meanwhile, TheRadar earlier compiled a list of 13 myths about lovemaking that every couple should stop believing. 

Many of the ideas about lovemaking are myths and misconceptions that can create unnecessary pressure, unrealistic expectations, and even dissatisfaction in the bedroom.

The truth is, there’s no single right way to experience intimacy, and what works for one couple might not work for another.