- Some ladies believe a man’s financial capabilities should be tested during the talking stage
- Other ladies have unrealistic expectations of men they are not committed to
- Nigerians give their opinion on the subject
The controversial topic of whether ladies should be entitled to a man’s money during the talking stage of a relationship often sparks debates about gender roles, financial expectations and dating rules.
Saida Boj trends for her demands from men
A controversial influencer, Saida Boj has been trending on social media for days because of her hot takes on the financial expectations she has of a man she meets for the first time.
She said on a popular podcast, Honest Bunch, that “as a lady within 24 hours of meeting a man, you should bill him to know if he is capable, if not you are wasting your time.”
She also said a man who wants to get married should have nothing less than 50 million in his bank account.
Her strong opinions have generated varying reactions from netizens. Some believe that she is only saying such ridiculous things to gain attention and publicity, while others simply ignore her.
Some angry Nigerians went on to report her social media accounts and her accounts got banned.
Nigerians react to ladies demanding money during talking stage
Speaking on the matter, Frederick (surname withheld) tells TheRadar that he believes that gifting is a choice and nobody should feel entitled to someone they are not committed to.
“I believe "entitled" is a strong word. Why would anyone be entitled to anything from someone they have no commitment to? Gifting is a choice, the value of the gift is to be determined by the gifter. Of course, the person being gifted has a right to reject the gift if it's not up to their standard, but that person has no right to demand a gift of a certain value,” he added.
Another Nigerian, Victor Aremu, revealed that any lady who tries it with him will be ignored as he would ghost her.
In his words, “No lady has the right to make demands of a man whom she’s not in a relationship with. As for me, you ask for anything, I ghost you! Go and ask your father!”
For Debbie, another Nigerian, no self respecting lady would bill a man whom she’s not in a relationship with. At least have some self-respect. It is women who think of men as a poverty alleviation scheme that act like that. Just have fun in the talking stage, get to know your man and don’t let money be the deciding factor for you.”
Some Nigerians took to social media airing their opinions on the matter.
@PeterzTee posted: “Funny enough, most girls with these ideologies are the ones raised in abject and extreme poverty that only justification to their continuous existence is money…”
@Oyin_dml1952 posted: “No human from a well to do family background will think like this. Says a lot about her immediate family.
@pabloLIGHT01 also posted: “Men are really misbehaving, men have spent more than this, that’s why she has the guts to say this lol. See entitlement for another person’s money…”
Expressing his opinion, @Solomon_Buchi also posted: “Call it cruise or clout chasing, but there’s an unbearable promotion of relationship prostitution, where jobless and asinine women hop on innocent men with such disgusting entitlement. They have no grace, real beauty or dignity. They parade themselves in costly materials like wigs, makeup and clothes—all to cover up their lack of virtue. Beautiful masquerades!
"What shocks me more is their brazen lack of shame to jump on podcasts to advertise their abysmal brain cells to the world. For a woman to think this way, imagine how she was raised and what she must have done to get all that she has. As I call it, it is prostitution. It is prostitution to expect a man to pay you because you look beautiful. Convince me otherwise that it’s okay for a woman to take care of herself because men must appreciate her for looking after her body.
"I might sound hard and unfeeling, but I’m disgusted by this constant publicity of a dearth of shame and virtue. This isn’t okay and we should strongly condemn it. It’s destroying the fabric of romantic relationships because men begin to treat every woman as a commodity, because of charlatans like the one in this video.
"Finally, men aren’t left out in this. Men enable these women; men patronize them. Men spoil them. Men, just because of bum(which is just a muscle) spend their hard-earned money and twist these women’s sense of value for money. You’re a simp and a weak man if you spend your hard-earned money on female masquerades like this.”
@ MenaBossBoss also posted: Most Nigerian ladies are orphans looking for where to feed and survive. The life their father didn't give them, they are looking for it outside selling their body for money… Relationship these days is prostitution, ‘you must give me money before you date me.’”