- Tems said marriage should focus on growth rather than just emotions
- She emphasised the importance of choosing a God-fearing partner
- She noted that marriage brings challenges that encourage personal development
Nigerian singer Temilade Openiyi, professionally known as Tems, has shared thoughtful insights into her views on marriage, stressing that it should be built on growth, accountability and purpose rather than solely on emotion.
The Grammy-winning artist made the remarks during a recent interview with media personality Angie Martinez, where she spoke openly about relationships and long-term commitment. Tems explained that while love is important, it should not be the only driving force behind marriage.
According to her, marriage is a significant commitment that is bound to face difficult periods, and individuals should enter it with a clear and realistic understanding of this reality. She noted that it is not always a smooth or ideal journey, but one that requires effort, patience and a willingness to evolve.
“Marriage is something that makes you better as a human being. It should,” she said, adding that it is meant to challenge individuals and encourage personal development over time.
Tems emphasised the importance of compatibility in relationships, stating that a strong partnership should contribute positively to each person’s growth. In her view, marriage operates on a deeper level than ordinary relationships and often reveals aspects of life that test resilience and commitment.
She also highlighted the role of spirituality in choosing a partner, revealing her preference for a God-fearing man. According to Tems, accountability is a key factor in sustaining a lasting relationship, as it provides a moral foundation that guides behaviour and decision-making.
“My partner has to be a God-fearing man,” she said. “Because why would you truly love me if you don’t have anyone that you answer to?”
She further explained that without accountability, it may be difficult for someone to remain consistently committed over a lifetime, suggesting that a sense of higher responsibility strengthens dedication in a relationship.
Tems’ remarks have since generated discussion among fans and observers, many of whom have praised her measured and reflective approach to marriage. Her perspective stands out in a time when relationships are often portrayed as being driven primarily by emotion.
As her global influence continues to expand, Tems is not only shaping conversations through her music but also through her views on life, relationships and personal growth.